The other day I was procrastinating some big item on my todo list (perhaps not the best admission for the start of this post), and found myself looking at what others had written about necessary “adulting” skills. The lists weren’t at all what I thought they would be. I found items like
- Learn how to do your own laundry.
- Learn how to boil water.
- Learn how to balance a checkbook.
Sure, these are all great skills, and we could add a ton of other skills that are needed for someone to exist successfully as an adult in modern society.
I just expected the lists to run a little deeper:
- Take responsibility for your own actions and reactions, instead of blaming anyone and anything available.
- Learn how to constructively solve problems with others.
- Respect that many adult duties are mundane and boring, but necessary.
- Learn to be dependable and punctual, and live with integrity.
- Care about people more than things.
- (Especially since you are having to accept that you are no longer the center of the universe) make someone else feel like the universe revolves around them, even if only for a few precious moments.
- Honor each moment of your life and each circumstance in your life for what you can learn from it and how you can grow from it.
As much as possible, I would make sure that my children were capable of learning life survival skills — but then I would focus on teaching them how to be true adults. In their own, out-dated and imperfect way, that’s exactly what my parents did for me.